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Grrrr, he's talking back like crazy!

Natasha — Tue, 25 Oct 2005 16:55:40 GMT

Ok, I know 7 is an important age for boys to start asserting some independence, but this has gotten to a ridiculous level. The talking back has to stop!

Let me give you some background. We've always raised our little guy to know he can counter a comment with his own thoughts and feelings and express himself without fear of being reprimanded for "talking back" as my mom would say. We always taught him to say things in a polite manner, not snotty, but simply state things like "I'm not really tire yet mommy, can I stay up maybe 5 minutes more, please?" or "when you said that to me like you did it made me feel sad" and things like that, which I don't perceive as backtalking, but just him being able to talk with us in a rather rational fashion.

So now I'm getting attitude thrown into the mix, and getting comments like "no!! I don't want to!" and "No, I'm watching a movie, I'm NOT going to bed"........well.......gone are the days of him being as polite as he used to be. It could be that I'm not taking the time to be patient and talk like we used to and so on and so on.....but no matter the reason, grrrrrr! I'm getting tired of the smack attitude he's gotten started with and I'm not sure how to rope it in without using mom's old line of "don't talk back to me"..........waaaaaaahahahaha......I'm at my wits end!

Help!

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my son...

Sat, 26 Mar 2005 06:39:06 GMT

graduates from high school this year, and I have been a lucky, lucky mother. It's funny, I never beat that child, but he will tell you he is terrified of me, even though he is 6' tall and 200 lbs. it's all about attitude!

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My real fear with my son...

Mon, 28 Mar 2005 20:20:15 GMT

Is that he and his girlfriend are going to slip up and make me a g-g-grand-I can't even say the word...
She is a really sweet girl, and they are "oh-so in love", but they are just now graduating from High Scool. If they are meant to be together they need to give themselves time to enjoy each other before they reproduce...

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Fri, 04 Mar 2005 17:03:16 GMT

Jake has been in rehab for around 60days now. He has smoked weed, and two weeks ago went to a rave and popped E. I went to the parental group meeting last night - surrounded by a group of strangers and their kids and he announces that he jacked Meth again on Monday. I have no idea how I kept it together with my already fractured heart - I listened to their trite advice and then they asked me how I felt. I said 'excuse me' and left the room. There is still shame in male tears with strangers - I should know. I returned 10 minutes later, eyes stripped of all but pride, and sat and watched as the session continued with meaningless platitudes. Actually this is wrong - there is no pride left either. There wasn't before I entered the building even, but that is another story. I sit here typing this, sifting through the ashes of my life, not to induce sympathy but merely to inform. Outpatient rehab does not work. If your kid does this to you get him/her inpatient as soon as possible.

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Did I kill this tribe?

Wed, 16 Mar 2005 18:14:10 GMT

So sorry

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I feel I should also tell you about mine...

Mon, 07 Feb 2005 17:31:23 GMT

..instead of giving out parsimonious advice.
I have a 16 year old boy who has been addicted to methamphetamine for almost a year (I just found out). He has quit but with zero grades and no motivation (it takes years to get over the drug apparently). So last week he decides to join friends and on the school grounds and smoke weed (not him, them). The teachers catch them and he threatens one of them. The on-campus police search him and find a four-inch lock knife (possession is a felony offense onschool grounds). He is arrested and now has a record which will probably mean him losing his visa and returning to the UK.
The school will probably expel him anyway - zero grades, threatening behaviour previously (gym teacher - told her to fuck off) and possession of weapon.

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oh man

beebalalou — Sat, 19 Feb 2005 02:54:51 GMT

silas has
started taking
naps late
like 3 to 7
ACK
i'm gonna have
to start driving
the pup
around in cars
again
it drives
me bonkers
that he hates
sleeping

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What is he freaking out for?

Dani — Tue, 01 Feb 2005 15:25:31 GMT

Riley is 7 and he has entered his I'm not listening faze... He talks to me like I'm the kid and he's the parent. He is a little too mature for his age since I never really held back around him with what I say, but god, he treats me like shit sometimes. He doesn't swear or anything, in fact he thinks that stupid is a bad word and that his mom just has a potty mouth. We are arguing. That's not ok! He is supposed to listen, but instead he always has to have the last word. It's like an addiction to him or something. He wont stop talking unless he ends our conversation... Do I need therapy? God , maybe.. But for now I'm going to satisfy myself by talking shit about my sweet little angel...

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i am going crazy!!

Sun, 06 Feb 2005 23:26:18 GMT

my son is completely freaked out about me dating. ARGH!! it causes so much STRESS. i started seeing a guy in my neighborhood back in oct. i go over to his house after jeremy is asleep - typically around 10 or 10:30. i spend a few hours there, watching t.v., making out, whatever - until the inevitable 1:30 am phone call when jeremy has woken up, found out i'm not home (we live with my dad, so he's not alone), and called to beg me to come back. so i get dressed and go home. it is no better now than it was at the start. as i posted in freaky mamas, now he has said that people over 35 years old who aren't married shouldn't even be having sex. WTF?!? where'd he get that idea??
this is the biggest problem we have; we can agree about almost everything else. but JEEZ. i have a friend coming to town later this week and jeremy is already stressed about it, which makes me stressed, which sucks, b/c i would much rather be excited and looking forward to it than fretting over how to manage the details.
i try not to resent my kid, but this more than anything makes me bitter. i can live without the other things i've had to give up - like living in my favorite neighborhood b/c it's too far from his school, or not having free time to do my own thing very often - but if i can't get laid, i'm grumpy indeed. maybe it's worse b/c i figure i don't necessarily have that many good sex years left - already starting to have weird irregularities about my period. sigh. this more than anything makes me sometimes wish i wasn't a, well, you know.